Part 1: Sacred Awakening: How Masculine & Feminine Healing Work Together in Des Moines

Mikaal Bates

Coaching, Men's Work, Sacred Union

(Re)Masculation Podcast

Last weekend, I co-lead a women’s retreat.  In Iowa, no less. 
Flanked on either side by two incredible women doing the work of merging their Integrative Family Medicine practice with the tools and techniques of esoteric spirituality, something truly special was born–and is already growing into a movement. 
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Why was I, a man, involved in co-leading a women’s retreat you might ask? And in Iowa no less?! 

Because one of these women asked for HELP.

And she got it.

She attended our “Sacred Union” event here in Austin last January and was so impacted by her experience that she wanted to bring this work to her own community back home in Des Moines.

So she did something about it—she reached out and directly asked for help—applying a very powerful and polarizing teaching in the world of masculine and feminine dynamics.

Her ask, preceded by her willingness to vulnerably allow inspiration and intuition to carry her into making a direct request for help to a man she barely knew, called me into collaborative co-creation with her, and “Sacred Awakening” was born.

And so, 60 women and 1 man cooked up something seriously magical together, and showed me a HUGE piece of how this human “technology” of women and men can unfold—namely how masculine leadership can support women in a powerful and unique way while leading with other women.

It was a deeply healing and transformative experience for everyone there.

How do I know that?

Because before the conclusion of the event, I asked for any woman who would be interested in attending another event like this one to raise their hand: EVERY HAND WENT UP.

I then asked the women if they would want to see a similar event for Men, and if they knew any men they would want to invite: EVERY HAND WENT UP.

Finally, I asked the women if they would be interested in participating in a co-ed Men’s + Women’s event where men and women, both single and in partnership, could come to practice the art of being men and women together again in harmony: EVERY. HAND. WENT. UP.

I am not sharing any of this to toot my own horn.

Yes, what I am a part of helping (re)create and revive with this work is something I’ve been working towards for most of my life. And, the POTENCY of what is coming through at these events is coming in through the COLLECTIVE—a collective willing to collaborate in the process of our shared healing, and the capacity for leadership to create a very specific frame to allow for emergent group healing in real time.

The next level of that healing, the next layer of women’s work, and men’s work…

…is men’s AND women’s work.

Together

This is the work as far as I can tell, in its 3 iterations:

• Women’s Work.
• Men’s Work.
• Women + Men, Together.

This is the TECHNOLOGY that is wanting to reconstitute itself in the world.
These are the conversations we are ready to have.

And while the Masculine may be the natural leader, there is a very old idea that it is in fact HER frequency that goes first.

The WOMEN are ready.
They have been gathering.
They are pointing the way.

They are ready for healthy, integrated, masculine leadership in support of their work.

And the men are stepping in and stepping up as well.

The MEN are ready, and sometimes, need to be inspired into their own work by something worth fighting for—be that his deeper purpose in life, or Her.

There are SO many men out there who are done blaming women for their problems.
There are SO many women out there who are done blaming men for their problems.

There are SO many women AND men out there who are ready to heal…
Ready to come back together as SACRED women and men…
Ready to become FLUENT in men and women…
Ready to learn the tools none of us were taught around intimacy, communication, sexuality….

So in that Spirit, I send this message out: REACH OUT.

We are beginning to create these experiences all over the country, and need your help to bring this work back to our people, back to us.

This work is about collaboration, and that is my favorite way to work. So let’s get to work.
The days of individual personal development are obsolete—communal development is the next piece of the puzzle.

Who’s ready for the next level?
If you run a women’s group, a men’s group, or have a following of men or women that would be interested in experiencing:
– The work of women coming together with healthy masculine co-leadership;
– Men coming together to initiate in brotherhood;
– Or women AND men coming together to reclaim our birthright of healthy relating…
Reach out and let me know.

We are taking this show on the ROAD and will travel.