Part 2: The Unbecoming of Her: Women’s Healing Through Sacred Union and Emotional Integration

Kara Dobelis

ARNP, Cofounder of IFM

“And the MEN are ready as well. We just need to be acknowledged, honored, and inspired into their own work by something worth fighting for, be that a deeper purpose in life, or Her”.

At the end of 2024, two months into an intense mentoring program and new certification…I came to realize all the ways in which I escaped experiencing myself. Rather, Her.

By using other things over the course of my adult life. Medication. Drugs. Alcohol. Men.

I was so deep into my shadow of the dark feminine and decided to do the work. The work I teach other women. The work I had to dip back into myself, to further the unbecoming. 

The work came through as an event I decided on a whim to attend because I’d changed the frequency within myself that I desired to attune to. The frequency being divine union, a sacred frequency of love between the masculine and feminine. Ironically (but not), the event was named Sacred Union. 

Unknowingly, it was an event where He would remind me of my light. 800 miles from home. 

I left the event and stepped directly into a new life. Literally it was 60 degrees and sunny in Texas, and I came back to Iowa and stepped off the plane to -10 degree temps and no winter coat. I didn’t make a series of pleasant choices on the path here…rather I picked up my bags and walked across 8 lanes of oncoming traffic. 

Now, “things” in life are simply the conduit to experiencing Her. A simple mindset shift, found on an arduous journey of the discovery of Her, led me to freedom.

The freedom of Her elicited a new life. A new way of being…of existing…softening into this human life.

I became free in the process of Her unbecoming: all that I once believed to be true about myself was not true, and I found that the less I believed the stories and labels the darkness had created, the more it revealed of Her. Her light. Her power. The combination of her light and her power now radiates a new frequency on the path. 

She decided to ask for help. The ultimate test being the “ask” for help from the masculine.
And He answered. Slowly. Cautiously. (Let’s be real, he didn’t see my ask for help, but OTHER MEN, his brothers, answered the call, and directed him to the path). Thank you to these brothers for answering my call.

Over the next 3 months, the path revealed itself as Sacred Awakening: a collaborative effort of the divine masculine and divine feminine merging their energies. A living, breathing version of the work they were doing separately, became one.

The path set forth by the same frequency she attuned to at his event in January. 
Leading to the birth of Sacred Awakening, a product of the mutual desire to be in service to the collective and spread the teachings of this work far and wide.

Born under His guidance and lead on behalf of the work. Born of her surrender and devotion to him.

All because she set fire to the path months prior. 
No attachment to the outcome.
Calling forth what she desired, resting in his safety and protection, she rose.

Her frequency goes first.

If you run a women’s group, a men’s group, or have a following that would be interested in experiencing the work of women coming together to heal, men coming together to grow, women AND men coming together to create the attraction, connection, and ease that is our birthright as human beings, reach out and let me know. We are taking this show on the ROAD and we will travel.