When it comes to those three little words with a great big meaning, how comfortable are you verbalizing them to a friend, a spouse, or even your own child? Many of us struggle to say the words even if we are feeling them. I am here to tell you that the importance of actually verbally saying to your child, “I love you,” is great. In this blog we will look at the why and the how of saying I Love You.
Research shows that children who feel a strong sense of acceptance and love at home, are more likely to develop a positive self-esteem. Having a positive self-esteem has many benefits such as: positive body image, healthy relationship with food, better social relationships, more success at school and work, and improved mental and physical health. Forming a positive self-esteem as a child will lead into adulthood, and ensure an overall happier more successful life for your child.
So that’s the why, but what about the how? How do we incorporate saying and showing love to our child when that is not the norm for us? If you are like me (and many of us out there) I did not grow up in a particularly affectionate family. I knew I was loved but the words were not often spoken. I have found ways to incorporate the words into my child's everyday routine. For example, when my daughter wakes up I take two minutes to snuggle with her and tell her I love her. I tell her how she makes me feel so happy, and the best part of my day is spending time with her. This two minute interaction starts both of our days off with love. It fills our cups, and we are ready to start our day and tackle whatever comes our way.
So I encourage you to bring the “I Love You” into your everyday conversations with your children. Show them love by giving them quality time, listening to them, and being silly. Give them examples of healthy loving relationships, with friends, family, and your partner. All of this will build trust between you both, promote a positive self-esteem, and even release some good serotonin.
Here at Integrative Family Medicine, we love that you have become a part of our family. This practice was created to spread love and healing, and provide the care you deserve! Thank you for being a part of our story!
Pediatric Sensory Specialist